Divorce Mediation

Divorce Mediation is a voluntary process designed to assist you in the dissolution of your marriage. It enables you to reach an agreement regarding the best arrangements for you and your family.  Mediation concentrates on the parties, what THEY want and is best for them both.  It is a "kinder" "gentler" way to divorce.

Obtaining a divorce through mediation should prove not only less expensive, generally enable the parties to proceed more quickly, but also allows both parties to move on with their lives with the least turmoil. If there are children involved, and a continuing relationship between the parties will be required, mediation is clearly a preferred alternative.

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I Hurt... Why Mediate Instead of Litigate?
Published on Divorcenet.com (July 29, 2009)

Imperatives to a Successful Mediation

No:

• raids on the safe-deposit box

• changes in life insurance

• changes in title to assets

• secret bank accounts

• increase in debt without mutual agreement

• cutting off the credit cards

• abuse of credit cards

• cutting off support

• interference with access to the children

• sabotage of child’s affection for other parent

• threats of legal action

Important Aspects of Divorce by Mediation

It is nonadversarial. You are partners in decision-making.

It is mutual. You both must agree on solutions, or there is no agreement.

It helps clarify areas of conflict. Most couples have some conflict. As the mediator, I will help you both limit the conflict and discuss things productively.

It gives you both power. You control your own decisions over your own lives.

It is aimed at helping you both get on with your lives. Rather than concentrating on blame, revenge and anger, you can concentrate on the future.

It is best for your children. All of the discussions are tempered with the fact that you are both parents of your children and you will have a continuing relationship as parents after you have ended the spousal relationships. Many other forms of divorce negotiations forget the best interests of the children. In mediation, it is always paramount.

PARENTING COORDINATOR - As a Parenting Coordinator, the concentration is assisting the parents to communicate with each other, utilizing the Best Interests of the child.